Scrolling via our social media sites feeds feels like a harmless component of our lives. But is it actually as harmless at seems? According to social media specialist Bailey Parnell, our growing as well as unattended obsession with social networks has unintentional long-term effects on our mental wellness. As social media sites remains to become part of the textile of modern life– the "electronic layer"– abstaining is coming to be much less of an alternative. Bailey assume it's due time we found out to practice secure social before it's far too late. What are the usual triggers? Exactly how are they influencing you in time? Just how can you create a more favorable experience online? Bailey covers this and a lot more in "Is Social Media Site Hurting Your Mental Wellness?"
Bailey Parnell was just recently named one of Canada's Leading 100 The majority of Powerful Women. She is a prize-winning digital marketer, speaker and businesswoman with a talent for helping people inform better tales. Her job as well as knowledge have been included on CBC, CTV & in other neighborhood Toronto media. Bailey recently started SkillsCamp, a soft abilities educating business where they aid individuals establish the vital abilities needed for specialist success. She likewise currently works in digital advertising at Ryerson University.
Bailey is a constant speaker having spoken with greater than 10 thousand people. She primarily mentions social networks, personal branding, as well as media and also mental wellness. She guest lectured her initial MBA class at 21-years-old and also has actually been the youngest speaker as multiple scholastic meetings. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Interaction and also Culture with a study focus on social media as well as psychological health, and also holds an honours bachelor's degree from the RTA College of Media at Ryerson.
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Hi Everyone, Thanks so much for watching my talk and leaving your thoughts. It’s really interesting to hear how everyone has encountered the dark side of social media in one way or another, and what you did to overcome it. I hope this talks make us all (and especially our young kids) think about this more.
Glad I found this. This will definitely be a tool I will be using in therapy with those I serve as a LMHC 🙏🏽❤️✝️👣🌄
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Yeah I was never a social media fan the only social thing I do with media is YouTube comments sections. And I’m glad about that
It was a nice speech Bailey and I love your voice.
Yes
“In social media WE are the product, and we are letting others attribute value to us”
Very powerful
esto hoy en dia asi va
@2:00 AM que pareces coool sinceramente
se llama comparacion social ascendente
Yes!
I literally thought if this was a valuable comment or not before liking :/
3 months no social media best feeling ever. living my own reality
hate to tell you, but by posting this comment, you’re technically posting on social media.
You broke your streak going on YouTube
Yesss n I love it !
@steamed buns619 On YouTube you can hear points of views that hit home that you can not hear on TV and plus on YouTube you can hear incredible music as well, On YouTube you have YouTubers who don’t care about popularity, Just messages and reports that hit home. / I’m 35 years old by the way.
love it
I used social media. I realised I’m just wasting my time.
Then i tried to leave social media. It was a hard decision. But i beat it. Now i just use WhatsApp for communication and YouTube for knowledge.
1- Ted talk
2- jay shety
3- Prince ea
4- Bright side
5- Be inspired
These are my favorite channels. There are some other channels are also, but they are not in my mind now. Movies and TV shows are my business in leisure. YouTube changed my life. I learned more from it than school.
same here
I also subscribe your favourite chennal.
@sayma nur keep growing 💗
How you left social medias without getting distracted. I deleted social medias forever but ended up installing after 5 days. What’s wrong with me. How can this addiction be cured plz reply bro
@Aoun Muhammad hey brother! I hope you will be fine, happy and healthy. If you can’t delete social apps then use these apps for your educational purposes. If you are using them to learn new things then you aren’t addicted, you are motivated. If you are wasting your time, then you need to know yourself
Where you were?
Where you are?
Where you want to go?
Who you want to be?
Do you have a plan for next five years or so?
Work and try to find your life purpose. Find your field or whatever you want to.
You need to be very clear about your life and about your future.
Don’t waste your time, use this device in your hand to excel, not to get expelled from the game of life. Wish you luck🤞
She has a point actually, It’s not social media fault, it’s the people…
That would’ve been true back in 2015/2016 when social media didn’t abuse their algorithms that hard.
It’s now very noticeable with twitter especially, unless you personally choose to view your timeline in chronological order and turn off any useless settings which twitter automatically turns on for you when you first create your account or when you’ve been off your account for a while, you will have everything tailored for you, even the tweets they think you wanna see.
So in order to show up on people’s timelines, a. you have to be constantly active; b. you have to receive engagements on your tweets and the more you stick to that cycle the more engagements you’ll get. Twitter recently even started encouraging people to use their quote retweet feature more often (you know, for more engagement purposes) to the point where simple retweeting was turned off for a period of time. And now those tweets that gather a lot of quote retweets will show up on people’s timelines more often than those that don’t.
So unless all the people you follow choose to view their timelines in chronological order, the content you share will be affected by algorithms like that and not everyone who follow you will see your tweets
That’s just one example
this is basically one thing she is wrong hahahahaa social medias are slot machines made to addict, they sell our attention and data base
@Yoongles Lajibolala You didn´t get it. The way they said it looks like social media is not addictive on purpose, but they are. Of course you must have self discipline.
@Yoongles Lajibolala you act like you’re above addiction. ha
Facts
Social media simply destroyed you…!
Fear of missing out..Misinterpretation and especially comparing people with all the fake post.! Giving up social media is the best thing that happened to me. I’m happier than ever!
Im glad to hear that. Cheers mate
I am an Indian, In my childhood, my teacher taught me that, there is a simple definition of poison, anything excessive is called poison whether it may be food, internet, love or anything. And to fix the limit for your self you need intelligence and perception.
@dhyxn so ? it doesn’t change the fact paracelsus said it in a different way as well
nice one
Agreed bhai
@Latte Sanskrit quote ‘Ati sarvatra varjeyeta’. Excess of anything is bad is its translation.
Yea, it goes “dose make the poison” you can say and it’s real toxicology principle. It can be used for addictions too, like you said.
the first thing I noticed when I quit social media is how much everyone looks at their phones
Me looking at everyone on the bus today
Wow this is so true, I take the bus to work every day and since quitting social media I actually look around whilst on the bus. About 80% of the people on there have their heads in their phones. When I look out the window I also catch so many motorists nosing at their phones whilst driving too! It’s crazy
and how conscious they are ’bout how they look
Sooo true, forget about teenagers, being a mother myself I see parents on phone and even kids in stroller and buggy using phones. I always get surprise and shock.
Smartphone sometimes destroys our civilization in every sense. 😆
Beautiful talk! I loved the part where she said you don’t have to follow your friends. That is true, some of my friends are too different on social media compared to real life.
Oh, I’ve noticed that a LOT with many of my “friends” or former schoolmates. I start questioning whether their online persona is their actual true selves, or if they are just putting up a mask for the others to see. But then I start questioning myself why I care so much, and why I still keep on following all these people even if I’ve barely had a straight conversation with them before. Social media really distorts our perception of others and ourselves. I’m trying to be less caught up in the online world, and only go on it for practical purposes.
@K. 👍, I feel you too,
@K. same! I am wondering why I am still so ‘busy’ with what they do… It’s like this ‘bad habit’ and you feel this obligation to respond or watch their instagram stories.. the other day I was like why am I doing this..?🙄 An acquintance is on a holiday now and she posts every-single-day in her stories and it means that I have to watch how she is on her holiday every day… I mean why? I am not obligated to anyone! So I decided not to watch it anymore and distance myself more from this whole social media loop… pretty much done with following what other people do all day (especially people who post every day!) the focus should be on my own life.
@Marieke M. so true! It’s like you need to constantly react and respond to the stuff that people post, and even when you’re trying to ignore them, you still get bombarded with notifications … I think social media has become even unhealthier because of the pandemic :/
@K. exactly.. ! I have already turned off my notifications but it’s still in the back of my mind during the day, it’s crazy😬 or people ask ‘did you saw what I post?’🙄 I feel like I never have a break from people and their lives/opinions because you are always ‘connected’.. and like you said, people are even more active on social media with this whole pandemic and want to show what they do (or feel about something/all those opinions😒) and I feel more like the opposite… To live more in the moment, for myself, without this whole social media pressure. But it’s kind of a challenge because it’s this pattern… but it’s clear that I need to take a step back and focus more on myself again. So maybe starting with small goals..
My biggest issue with social media is that it’s making me lose all my faith in humanity. When I go on social media I quickly get the impression that humanity is starved for intelligence and rational and logical thought. I end up reading the crazy commentaries and the rebuttals when I could better spend my time on relevant work.
Same. It’s disheartening.
That is what makes me want to leave too. So many people just use it to unleash their nastiness…..
Literally the same thing is happening to me now, I just want to get rid of it and focus on things that are actually good for me
I’ts the comments section that makes me want to run for the hills.
Same and i hate it i regret it…
since 2019. I just want to quit social media because… i dont want but i tempted many times and i know im not the only one like this gen z was miserable
Who all are watching this in 2020 ?
Let us start practicing ‘Social Media Distancing’ !
26,04,2021=)
would like to
Yeahh
Nice one 🤣❤️
It’s almost the end of 2021 but can I join you?
I’m scared to delete my social media. I’m afraid I’ll miss out and end up lonely or bored. But strangely enough I probably feel lonelier because of social media.
Just play videogames! Hahahaha
@Nitro Janks My thing is the opposite, I’ve had privacy for so long and it’s very lonely and it’s just your thoughts when you want to express how you feel. Sure I’ve had meditation and relaxing myself I’ve had that. But when I go out into the park and privacy is a virtues these days to people you feel empty. I wish early 2010s when people were open, I could of met someone and connected with as they were vibrant and not with walls. It’s a mix feeling for me becouse what I feel and what the world thinks generally cannot recognise that only its latter. I’m steadily doing things but mix emotions, distance as to fake how I feel “I’m ok, yeah, I know.” So not to get a observant reaction and make myself feel bad, you have to formulate your feeling as a complete half truth not for its polical or general reactions response to get in your personal life. We are living in a time where unwritten rules are in place and numbing itself with wellbeing becouse of toxic social politics and lots of good people make all of us alone as the rule implys filter advices.
Feels
IM TELLING YOU DO NOT! DELETE IT
If you still have your account, its ok to delete. You wont lose your stuff
I thought i was weird and unsocial for doing this, but this comment section made me sooooo happy. I guess ill accept myself and not doubt my decision. And yes i deleted social media and i am mentally very happy 💯
@Jashu Rider its 2020 and this still is a topic of discussion? Ill leave you alone with your thoughts 🙂 anyways what was your point because I said something totally different🤔
So happy for you!
@Ruthvi Bangera happy for you mam
stay blessed
I am 16, always been very insecure. I quit instagram 4 months ago and most of my insecurities went away. I feel like instagram can make even the most confident person very insecure. Besides, if someone feels the need to post on sm all the time, then they are faking their confidence. True confidence is quiet
That is one wise 16 year old. (I apologise if this gives you a dopamine hit)
And I am addicted to stalking celebrities… I feel so disgusted and irritated… Like after I am done stalking, I feel why am I bothered about their life… I have my own, right? But it was an addiction I couldn’t get rid off… So today I deleted my account… I am scared I don’t log in back again! 😞😞
Congratulations. I wish I was that smart at your age.
This, 1000 times this
Beautiful insight!
If you want to stay happy in life just delete social media. Trust me you’ll be happier than ever.
Yeah can’t agree more i deactivated facebook 1 month ago and its still deactivated a total relieve to be honest !
Yup
@Yianni P. Yanniotism m. O. Kkyou.
Why are you everywhere. I see you on every video comment likeof bekar films etc
@Jacob Lipke Studios so u rely on another’s mans research to back up your claims u ppl kill me u must be fascinated with the topic
Reading the comments feels good. I’m not the only one who is avoiding social media.
Not at all. This is sad.
@Marx 1684 sad? Bruh you know what’s sad? It’s sad to take pics with your friends not for yourself but to post it on your account to get likes.
Bruh, you’re literally on YouTube which is one of the biggest social media platforms available
@Cheyenne Klaassen i’m thinking of creating a new Instagram with only my closest friends, and just say to other people that I don’t have social networking. I notice that it’s always became toxic for me when 1) start having people I just know from view on my Instagram and which I know are quite toxic. We always know in our gut they are or they are watching us. 2) When I start trying to follow trends or doing militantism/politics online
@RANDOM USER 0
Since being off all social medias I have noticed a huge shift in my insecurities, being more present, less anxiety and I don’t compare myself to others! I also just feel smarter and much wiser now ahha
i feel a lifting of the social media fog. and more outside time for me.
I think people act fake on social media
My peers often make me feel as if I’m the only one who is affected negatively by social media, like I have a problem or something. Its nice to know there are other people out there who feel the same way as me.
Hey Gaby! I want to assure you that everyone goes through SM depression and has the feelings you are talking about. I for one disabled all political stuff on FB, even though it got me to unlike everything I previously liked in terms of books, people, etc.
I don’t know your peers, but it might be due to one or more of a series of scenarios. 0. EQ: You just are a sensible soul and have more compassion for the world and the people living in it (you have a higher level of Emotional Intelligence) 1. Some people have such a strong humanity compass and self awareness that SM just doesn’t affect them; 2. Truth: they are lying in order to not seem lesser (extremely common human behaviour); 3. Volume: they aren’t paying as much attention to SM as you might be, in terms of screen time. 4. Stoics: Some people feed off negative energy trying to dissipate (I for one also am motivated by harsher conditions & adversity). 5. Some people feed off negative energy trying to replicate it.
In my country sometimes I go back to schools and universities to teach different life lessons learned in my professional career. One thing I avidly militate for is SM reduction or removal and the introduction of law that mandates a MINIMUM 16 YEARS AGE LIMIT till a person is allowed on SM, or similar platforms. (the young are most affected)
Hi! I’ve been having a hard time thanks to social media, I wanted to let you know that you’re not alone! Many, if not all of us, have been affected by social media. You don’t have a problem, you’re just human. I hope you are okay!
The happiest times of my life were the moments I wasn’t on social media. That just speaks for itself.
This hit home
Amd the happiest moments in our lives should not be attributed to social media. 💕
Same
im celebrating an year without social media. feels like I actually LIVED this year
Proud of you , I’m just starting 😁
@Fiazel Ven proud of you too ahahah, just started today
How do you use social media
Lol…u r still using YouTube so yeahh u r using social media😂😂